When my husband originally shared his convictions of us homeschooling the boys I was more than hesitant, I mean after all I am not a teacher right ?
See although I have only just finished my first year in this journey, I have learned sooo much.
I think its important to share some truths about homeschool and if it helps even just one mom on the fence about doing it, then its worth it.
You will lose your patience and that is okay.
Usually the first thing someone says to me when they learn that I am a homeschool mom is
“Wow you have patience”
On about the ten thousandth time I heard this I realized I had to be honest with not only myself but the person saying it to me.
Because the truth is
I DO NOT HAVE PATIENCE
In fact that is one of my biggest struggles since becoming a mom.
I pray daily for more.
So whats my response to that good old patience comment now ?
” No I actually don’t have patience
but what I do have
is forgiving kids”
Get it ?
I am not some super human mom that never yells or just floats through this motherhood journey perfectly.
I think it is just as important for my sons to see repentance
as it is to see any other life lesson or biblical principle.
Other moms will get defensive
What do I mean by that ?
Well, the second someone does something opposite of you,
(especially in parenting)
it forces them to reconsider or bash what you are doing.
Then Debbie Defensive comes to play.
( no I don’t mean her real name is Debbie 🙂
Instead of falling into the trap they set for you
( which can end with you somehow debating as to what is best for your children or trying to prove yourself in a war you’ll never win )
what I have learned is to smile 🙂
let them know you take it day by day,
actually second by second,
and that this is what works for you guys.
It is okay not to do what I do.
I am not God and I don’t have this motherhood task all figured out.
So if you are sometimes Debbie Defensive when you hear of how we do things
my advice to you is the same as above.
Just smile, hey maybe even encourage your fellow mom friend !
Lets build each other up in this tough job
whether you homeschool or not
eat organic or not
vaccinate or dont
I don’t care!
Last time I checked I am only responsible for the people in my home.
I am so sick of the secret mom clubs that think their way is the only way and sit and bash other parenting styles.
Do what you think is best for your child BOTTOM LINE !
your child will most likely be half naked or in pjs for school
why would we put real pants on when we can lounge in comfy clothes all day ?
I bet most of you can’t wait to get home from work and put on pjs.
So there is no dress code in my school,
and shirts and shoes are never required 🙂
Your house is gonna be messy
As much as I would like to tell you that my house is tidy all the time,
it is usually coated with crushed Cheerios and strange stains that remind me of throw up thats dry. ( YUCK, but its true )
As much as I love organization, sometimes my husband comes home to a sink full of dishes and no dinner and we clean up together and throw a frozen pizza in the oven.
My home now looks like a small private school, the Carolina room is converted into a classroom,
and instead of clear counters and cabinets we have Science projects and drawings on them.
One day far too soon I will miss this, so for now I am learning to embrace the chaos.
No two days are ever alike in our classroom
Sometimes we take lessons outside
Sometimes we take a much needed break smack dab in the middle of a lesson that I see my child struggling with,
what I then do is make some organic popcorn and we cuddle with Netflix and try again tomorrow.
After all I want my sons to love learning and not be rushed, so lets take our time 🙂
When on vacation in the random month of October,
sometimes school even follows us there! 🙂
That is what I call homeschool freedom.
And it is absolutely glorious.
You are hardly ever home
Yes, I would actually like to call homeschool a few different names such as
this is what you will actually need as an adult -school
Between baseball games –
( yes your child can play sports ! and get scholarships, in fact many colleges have their own homeschool recruiting staffs because they are so talented)
So like I was saying between baseball, co ops and family errands we are BUSY !!!
And my favorite part about the busy
is we do it TOGETHER because I am not just their chauffeur I am also their main teacher.
You can do this
Looking back at this year,
all the sleepless nights I spent researching curriculums and doubting if I could even do this giant task,
what I have learned most is one of the most destructive lies the devil whispers in your ear is
Because guess what, I DID do it.
And just like my bible says